Intuitive children are commonly misunderstood because their creative nature could be perceived as willful, misbehaving, pushing limits, and restless. Often, the truer reality is tat their temperament is curious, exploratory and creative.
The power of intuitive understanding will protect you from harm until the end of your days.”
What if …? asks the creative, intuitive, feeling child.
Case in point: As an intuitive child, Tom spent hours roaming the shores of Chesapeake Bay where his parents had a small beach house. He heard music playing in his head, and often hummed out loud to the melody. Sometimes when his parents spoke to him or called him for a family meal, he didn’t hear them. He was focused internally on the music that would come and go. In his feeling awareness, he felt it was time for dinner and would head home. However he was never acknowledged for coming home on his own. Rather he was always punished for being late, talked to about not listening to his parents, and all of this “discipline” could have been handled differently if his parents understood his temperament, how he took in and learned about his environment.
Intuitive children, also called the artistic-type or creative temperament among other terms, move through the world according to their inner feeling and rhythm. Of the 4 core temperaments, this child could be called the non-conformist. As one of my special education co-teachers said, “These kids live in their creative zones, not the time zone.” She was referring to their internal rhythm, the circadian rhythm, which can be disrupted by the need for movement or restlessness.
These children have a need for movement or you can observe a restlessness like tapping, kicking legs, or squirming. Circadian rhythm differences account for this, as well as sleeping differently from other children of the same age. The disruptive sleeping patterns alter the executive thinking skills. Sleep disruption can be common if self-regulation or regular schedules did not solidify in childhood.
This optimistic child is an adventurer, and his or her curiosity drives exploration and pushing limits. This is not willful, so much as the way the child learns…exploring the environment through feelings. The child needs exposure in the early years to varied forms of activity and allowed to indulge curiosity until child feels she is done with the experience.
This child is a risk taker, to the point of being called fearless. Loving to explore the limits of the environment reminded me of the children who start crawling and then walking and they explore all textures, corners, materials, foods and such. When the intuitive child matures, the curiosity turns to a creative bent, like Tom hearing music in his mind, or like writers, who describe their creative processes as hearing and feeling their story characters.
The feeling child is empathic and approaches the world uniquely and differently than the hearing, seeing, touching learning preferences. For example, the feeler is acutely aware of how his parents or her siblings are emotionally. When the emotional or feeling atmosphere with a parent or in the home is chaotic, the child may act out chaotically. When harmony prevails, the child feels more peaceful.
One other way the feeler child is affected could be physically. Some children don’t like belts around their waists. Others don’t like itchy materials. Still others don’t wear tight shoes, or anything confining, like a tie or collar, around their neck. Some children prefer soft, comfy bedding, and others like no pillows and lying flat.
Because the creative child is generally an active explorer, having a parent who enjoys the physicality and exploration offers the parent an opportunity to focus the direction and activity into confidence building and regulation. What you would notice is the mood of optimistic child can escalate quickly. Likewise the mood can dip into boredom or sulking.
This child’s esteem is an internal feeling of success. The don’t feel the words of a coach or parents who says, “Good job,” or “You did great,” as much as they want to express their feelings about doing or being good or not good.
Intuitive Children need to feel competent because they have become proficient in mastering a thespian role, being a goalie in soccer, or painting and liking the result. When the feeling of good, successful, or accomplished anchor emotionally within them, they are on their way in that skill set.
The creative factor often lead these intuitive kids to an entrepreneurial spirit early on as they have great ideas and want to se if their work!